A while ago, I made a blog post about sexualities. Since then, I've learnt a lot about myself. I'm still quite confused about interests but if I'd put to into words I'd say I have 2 or 3 sexualities. And I know what you're thinking "OMG WAT? HOW CAN U HAV 3 ??1?". But let me explain.
I have feeling for girls, that's the truth. I see myself as quite a strong bi-romantic.
Someone who enjoys behavior typically associated with dating and love, like cuddling, hugging, gift-giving, love notes, but probably not kissing, etc. and enjoys it with both genders, without necessarily desiring subsequent sexual experience. Biromantic people can be straight, bisexual, homosexual, or asexual.
'Jane went out with a girl and bought her this beautiful bracelet. Then they cuddled and watched a movie at her apartment. They don't make out or anything like that. They only desire physical relations with men. They must be biromantic and heterosexual instead of bisexual.'
According to Urban Dictionary. I see myself quite strongly because I could see myself spending my future with another female possible. However, when I've looked at myself in the future I've seen myself with a husband and with children. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to fall in love with a girl, or a boy for that matter. But I'm most likely gonna end up with a lad because I swing like that. I'd kiss a girl, and I mean like make out (not like sexually or hardcore but standard I'd be fine with. Is this weird? It seems weird.)
Like I said before, I'm demi too.
Demisexuals are characterized by a lack of sexual attraction toward any person unless they become deeply emotionally or romantically connected with a specific person or persons. The level of connection it takes for sexual desire to form is dependent on how close the relationship is rather than initial attraction. It is an orientation that is not chosen.
Demisexuality does not refer to the active restraint or repression of sexual desires or actions.
Demi- is a prefix meaning half. This is used to mean halfway between sexual and asexual. The term originated in the asexual community, specifically within the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN).
Demisexuality does not refer to the active restraint or repression of sexual desires or actions.
Demi- is a prefix meaning half. This is used to mean halfway between sexual and asexual. The term originated in the asexual community, specifically within the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN).
Sexual partner: Hey, I think you are sexy. *aroused*
Demisexual partner: I'd have to reach a higher level of emotional intimacy before I could feel the same way. =\
Sexual partner: Oh, I see. Well, we can do something enjoyable together. =/
Demisexual partner: =D We can bake a cake for now!
Sexual partner: Sure! That's always fun, although we seem to be doing that a lot. =D
Demisexual partner: *squeee! bonding time!*
Demisexual partner: I'd have to reach a higher level of emotional intimacy before I could feel the same way. =\
Sexual partner: Oh, I see. Well, we can do something enjoyable together. =/
Demisexual partner: =D We can bake a cake for now!
Sexual partner: Sure! That's always fun, although we seem to be doing that a lot. =D
Demisexual partner: *squeee! bonding time!*
Wow, thanks urban dictionary :D!!!1! I've explained this before so I won't get into too much detail. Key point is that I'm like this with males. This is the bit you have to understand. I would only ever have sex with a male, or do any thing sexually arousing. I don't mean this is an offensive way it's just that I don't find that part about girls arousing to me, like at all.
Now, number 3s a bit weird. In the definition it says a bi-romantic can be hetrosexual too. But again, I'm quite strongly with this as their is a possibility (although it's relatively small) that I'll spend the rest of my life with a girl. So, i don't necessarily stick to this label 100% of the time. However, with it being hetrosexual, and I can only ever experience sexual attraction to a boy, i guess that's technically what i am.
I don't like labels, I never have. And tbh I hate labelling myself but personally, I feel like I need to find a label. It's weird. I can't help but search for a label, but that's just me. And for me, this not completely correct label I have atm will do me for now. You never have to label yourself. I love this quote, which kind of describes me;
It's hard sometimes. To be queer. Everyone expects you to get on a male and ride him into the sunset once you come of age. Because we live in a metro-normalised society I've been told I need to be cured of my asexuality and that I need to be diagnosed with my sexualities. People jump to conclusion when I try to explain or push me into a corner of "you're just confused". I's degrading. It honestly is. I haven't come out yet, to school peeps or family, because I'm scared. To be closeted you don'r just have to be trans, gay or bi. You van just simply not be straight. I get so fed up because I try hinting to my family and explaining the sexualities before I come out and say I fit them. And they just say it's weird and doesn't exist. So I don't exist, right? I just want it off my chest but I don't know really. I'm queer af but trying to explain that to someone is hard af.
In conclusion, this is how I would react to a situation.
1
Friend: Oh look at that incredibly sexy boy! Wouldn't you bang him?
Me: Oh yes, but once I am at a suitable age and have developed a strong romantic relationship with him first and the I'd consider it :D He'd be a really romantic person!
2
Friend: Hey! Look at that really pretty girl!
Me: Oh yes! She looks like the type of person I would like to get to know and take her home.... So we can play mario cart and cuddle on my couch! I'd love to connect with her and have a strong romantic bond! :D
This post was a bit more personal, I hope I didn't bother any of you too much.
Take Care.
Little Old Me, logging off my Little Old World. Xxx
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